“You’re Sexy” is not an insult
Ever noticed how some feminists love to cry out for equal rights, while expecting to be treated with inordinate chivalry just for being women? Pssst, guys! Should we break it to them that they can’t have it both ways?
Rebecca Watson, self-proclaimed
feminist goddess of womankind, was a keynote speaker at a CFI conference where she narrated her harrowing experience in an elevator with a crude man. Here’s what happened.
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The guy invited Rebecca over to his room for coffee. He made a couple of attempts to convince her, but she refused. The guy then bode her farewell and got off the elevator.
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I’ve heard she has already signed a deal with Christopher Nolan, and her story is about to be immortalized by Hollywood…and serve as a call-to-arms for all feminists against the tides of misogynism. Megan Fox was originally being considered to play Rebecca Watson’s character, but they decided that by being sexy, she has defied the core tenet of feminism and was therefore rejected. Everybody knows a feminist has to be a sexless hag, preferably with a sour disposition, a strong-jaw, a permanent look of disgust plastered on her face, and barfs in her mouth at the sight of a human male.
Sarcasm aside (sorry folks, but that’s it for today)…
Since when did feminism become a modern prude-party that encourages women to be ashamed of their sexuality? If a girl, however unattractive and crude, invites me for coffee, even insists that I do…would I be offended? Not really. If a woman comes up to me says, “Hey, nice muscles!”, would I run off the CFI conference whining about how I was objectified? Probably not.
You know why? Because men are generally comfortable about their bodies and know how to take control of their sexuality. It’s about time women learn to do the same. In fact, it’s imperative that they do if they expect the equal rights movement to go any further.
“You’re sexy” is not an insult, it’s a compliment. The correct response by an uninterested female should be, “Thanks! But you’re not getting any, so piss off.” That’s it. It shouldn’t have to be anything more dramatic than that, as long as the alleged complimenter has used nothing more than words.
The proposition faced by Watson was clearly a good example of inappropriate behaviour. But why must everything be a Feminist vs Society issue? Why is it that one cannot even notice that a woman is good-looking without the sisterhood of the uber-ovaries descending upon him with an estrogen-charged tirade. I don’t get compliments about my looks a lot…okay, never…but in a hypothetical situation where I do receive such a remark, it would be a happy, dear diary moment. Not an opportunity for a “how fucking dare you” speech.
The awkwardness of a guy telling women what they ought and ought not to do, has not escaped me. I understand that perfectly. But I owe so much of my knowledge to strong, powerful women and it’s not completely illogical to believe that women can learn a few things from men too!